Thursday, May 10, 2012

Strengthen Families and Homes


Strengthen Families and Homes

 Although the early Relief Society sisters were involved in their community and ready to serve their neighbors, they never lost sight of their responsibilities toward their own families and homes. They were true to their innate gifts as mothers and nurturers. They were also true to revelations the Lord had given through Joseph Smith about family responsibilities:

“The office of thy calling shall be for a comfort unto . . . thy husband, in his afflictions, with consoling words, in the spirit of meekness.”

“Inasmuch as parents have children in Zion, or in any of her stakes which are organized, that teach them not to understand the doctrine of repentance, faith in Christ the Son of the living God, and of baptism and the gift of the Holy Ghost by the laying on of the hands, when eight years old, the sin be upon the heads of the parents.

“For this shall be a law unto the inhabitants of Zion, or in any of her stakes which are organized.

“And their children shall be baptized for the remission of their sins when eight years old, and receive the laying on of the hands.

“And they shall also teach their children to pray, and to walk uprightly before the Lord.”

“I have commanded you to bring up your children in light and truth. . . .

“First set in order thy house. . . .

“What I say unto one I say unto all. . . .

“. . . See that [family members] are more diligent and concerned at home, and pray always.”

Excerpts from the minutes of the Female Relief Society of Nauvoo indicate that Joseph Smith and the sisters never lost sight of the principles in these revelations. Their words and actions showed that their homes and the homes of others were uppermost in their minds. For example, Emma Smith taught that “it was high time for mothers to watch over their daughters and exhort them to keep the path of virtue.” The Prophet Joseph expressed special concern about the relationship between husband and wife. He counseled the sisters:

“Let this society teach how to act towards husbands, to treat them with mildness and affection. When a man is borne down with trouble—when he is perplexed, if he can meet a smile, not an argument—if he can meet with mildness, it will calm down his soul and soothe his feelings. When the mind is going to despair, it needs a solace. . . . When you go home never give a cross word, but let kindness, charity and love, crown your works.”

In other settings, the Prophet gave similar counsel to men, saying that a husband’s duty is to “love, cherish, and nourish his wife” and “regard her feelings with tenderness.”

I know that as I serve Steven, and our children, I am utilizing the greatest tool Father has given us to become like Him. In this service I develop all the god-like qualities within me. These can then reach beyond our home to others within my sphere of influence.

In January of 2010 I was seeking direction from Heavenly Father as to what aspect of service He would have me focus on developing during the coming year. The tender call came: 'Choose to serve your husband.' Not to be a servant to – but to serve my husband as Christ serves me.

I testify that to the degree I have applied this principle each day, everything else in my life has been affected for the better: I have been a more capable and caring mother and grandmother; daughter and sister; relative, friend, and neighbor. I have been able to manage my time in such a way that every needful thing is accomplished. I have been able to receive the word of the Lord with greater understanding. I have been able to serve in my calling with a greater capacity to testify of truth. I have felt a greater sense of urgency, accomplishment and satisfaction in building up and managing a home for our family. I have felt a real and tangible connection to my family on the other side of the veil. I have been drawn with a longing to be found inside the Temple as often as possible. I have felt balance and direction in my interests outside of our home.

I have also felt peace and joy and wonder at the outpouring of love, grace and mercy from our Heavenly Father and our Savior, Jesus Christ, as they tutor me, sustain me and forgive me each day, as I continue to strive to be full of charity and follow after the patterns of the Savior in my life.

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